The days, weeks and months following the birth of a child are intense. It is a time of huge change and huge emotions as you find your feet as a parent.
The newborn days can also be incredibly isolating. Particularly for the new mums and dads who don’t have the benefit of local family support. Therefore, it is important to feel connected to people that understand you, celebrate with you and empathise with you when you aren’t doing so great.
This support network is also known as your ‘baby village’. So, who is in your village, and how do you find one if you are feeling disconnected as a new mum?
Finding your baby village
Mother’s groups can be the start of the baby village
Mother’s groups have been around forever, and are a great foundation for a baby village. If you are yet to give birth, ask the nurse running your pre-natal classes about groups available nearby to you. Or, if you have already had your baby, head to your local community health centre or ask the nurse at your local baby clinic.
Social media groups
The modern-day answer to the mother’s group is a social media group. These are wonderful ways for new mums to connect. Most suburbs will have a mum’s meet-up groups, just search your area.
Local council activities
Local councils offer many free activities—look them up online or give them a call. The local library also hosts regular parent and baby activities.
Local playgroup
Playgroup Queensland is a great resource for connections. Check the Playgroup QLD website for a group near you.
Don’t forget your pre-kid world
One of the big changes that isn’t discussed enough is the potential disconnect you may feel from your pre-kid village. This is such an important group to invest in as well.
It is well-known that your pre-kid village loves you, and they have been there for you in the past. If you take a moment, you know they will be there for you again.
Having children is a big transition in your life, but it should not come at the expense of everything before it. You connected with your friends over many things. These things still exist. Your village people are all capable of dealing with change and are able to compensate when you are going through something new.
Communication is always key. If you want to keep your old, trusty village, you want to continue to invest in it when you have the energy to do so. Communicate this and they will understand.
You are better for your children when you are feeling supported and connected. Take time to look after yourself. If you haven’t found your village, give Parentline a call on 1300 30 1300. It’s open 8 am to 10 pm, 365 days a year. Alternatively, chat online at parentline.com.au.
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